Dating greek women tips

Although I have not done formal surveys and research on it, my hunch is that they cave into the pressures, consciously or unconsciously, to marry greek because our culture puts so much stake at keeping the Greek culture alive.

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Dating greek women tips

Relationships are extremely complicated, I know that.

But all too often I see the sacrifices to self and self worth, especially in terms of respect and equal division of house work and child rearing, that many of my Greek women friends have made for the sake of keeping comfortably Greek.

I can safely say that both “feel” more Greek even if I had to become über-Greek so to speak in an effort to keep them from going “Greek lite” as I felt holding on to Greek culture extremely important.

It was important for me that my daughters grow up Greek, but with all the benefits of feeling like empowered American women.

To be treated with respect and a fair division of the work in both sex roles are non negotiables in a marriage arrangement.

It pains me to see so many smart successful women who have so much going for them in their professions and social worlds compromise themselves in the most intimate of circles.

And of course we all know the sexual exploits of the cunning Odysseus.

If he had a sexual encounter on each of the islands on the way to Ithaca it is no wonder the return leg of the journey took him over ten years.

As women socialized in less patriarchal cultures, such as the US, this sort of double- standard becomes absolutely unacceptable. Therein lies the conflict for a Hellenic woman of the diaspora– how much does she sacrifice staying true to the traditions of her culture by marrying someone out of her cultural pool and how much does she sacrifice of her own dignity by conforming to the stereotype of the assumed Greek macho man?

In other words, do you settle for a Greek s-o-b just to keep the balance and socially more acceptable harmony of a Greek home?

Yet I did not want to compromise my self respect or settle for a spoiled overbearing Greek which tended to be my lot with most of the Greek men I met.

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