dating my roommate - Deal with intimidating

I didn’t want to listen to advice when I was in my 20’s or 30’s.

By the time I reached the age of 40, I realized my life was a mess, and I needed to listen to people who have experienced the same situation as what I am going through now. When I am around them, I feel insecure, and I become too eager to please them.

In Step 4, my fear helped me deal with my supervisor. It also let me know I am better off allocating work when I am overwhelmed than to take on new duties or to try to do it all myself.

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At that point, I can tell them what bothered me, why it bothered me, and how I prefer to deal with that particular situation.

For instance, if a co-worker asks me to do something for her, and I am in the middle of something else, I let him or her know what I am working on, and whether I can assist them out within a specific time period or not.

Sometimes I would get in trouble if the work did not get done in a timely manner, so my fear or anxiety about getting in trouble meant I had to focus on pleasing my supervisor by doing my work well and doing it in a timely manner.

Therefore, if you decide not to feel intimated and you are able to deal with the pressure, it can give you motivation to get something done.

In January, I wrote about feeling intimidated by my siblings.

I have worked with assertiveness issues in the past, and for me, it is an ongoing project. Then when I get a bad feeling about something a person said or did to me or I dream about it, I realize it was bothering me more than I thought I did, and I need to do something about it.I also get intimidated by people who order me around.If it is a supervisor, I pretty much have to follow their orders.The computer was messed up, causing a delay with printing the cards, or I am leaving early.I try to do as much as possible on my own (and unfortunately, I have a hard time figuring out whether I am overestimating or underestimating the amount of time it takes to do the work), and I look for a co-worker for assistance and then let my supervisor know other people are helping me with that task.Dealing with intimidating people provides emotional comfort and allows me do my work effectively.

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